Ten Do’s and Don’ts when Going Through Your Divorce
1. Don’t Panic You can get wrapped up in thinking of all kinds of things that you are afraid of. The most common fears are that you won’t have enough money, or that you won’t be able to see your children often. Most of these things are not going to [...]
Dad’s Matter, So Act Like It
When my daughter was 3 or 4 years old, we went to a birthday party. As a local clown performed a routine for the crowd of children, he blew up a large balloon and let it go. The balloon streamed across the room, expelling all of its air, and eventually [...]
Presenting the Child’s Voice
Children caught in the middle of a divorce or family dispute may have thoughts, feelings, opinions and things that they want to share. In Oregon, the desires or preferences of a child may be considered by a Court in making a decision about custody or parenting time. But presenting a [...]
At What Age Can a Child Choose Which Parent to Live With?
In the midst of a divorce or custody battle, it is common for the parties to try to pursue the result that they believe that their child wants. Oftentimes parties even bluntly ask: can my child pick which parent they want to live with? In Oregon, the quick answer is [...]
How Should I Prepare for a Consultation With a Family Law Attorney?
A task that is probably near the top of most people’s “Things I Don’t Want to Do” list is to meet with a divorce attorney. Nobody plans to end up in a divorce or custody case. So, if you find yourself having to meet with someone, it’s completely understandable if [...]
What Are You Made Of?
The unavoidable reality of being alive is that there will be times when you struggle. There will be adversity. We will all face challenges. Adversity is inevitable. We will get sick. We will have disagreements. Things will be broken. There will be surprises. At times it will feel like nothing [...]
How Can I Get More Time with My Kids?
Of the different issues in a divorce or family law case, none seems to be more personal and emotional than the inevitable disruption of the parties’ relationships with their children. Most of the things that people lose in a divorce can be replaced. People get new homes and rebuild their [...]